In this day and age it has become so easy to see into a peephole into the lives of others, be it your friends, family or just acquaintances. Social media such as Facebook and Instagram have permitted us to see what our ‘friends’ are up to, where they are, who they’re with and other trivial aspects. While there definitely are perks to how social media has transformed our modern lives I think a large issue remains on the fact that people now form immediate judgements and assumptions on what they see on these social platforms.
Within seconds of looking at someone’s online profile, we tend arrive at an opinion on what social circle a person is in, their relationship status, how many ‘friends’ or ‘followers’ they have, how popular they are judging from the number of likes on a certain photo. It is so easy to have this image and reputation of a person from a cursory gander at their profile regardless of how well we actually know them in reality. But I believe in many cases, we are mistaken. Or certainly what we think we know is not the entire book. We see a page or two but never the full chapter and definitely not the whole story.
Recently, a few conversations I’ve had with friends have proved to me that we are often very wrong in our superficial judgements of others. Or at least, I have been. I am sure I am not alone when I say that I can name at least a few other people who seem to lead the ‘perfect’ life. Of course this isn’t the case. No one’s life is perfect no matter how close to perfection it seems. Yes, some people may appear to have the good life, some people are veiled by facades and some people just seem to always get the short end of the stick. But circumstances are so much more complicated than one -word summaries.
Someone surrounded by countless friends can be incredibly lonely. Someone sitting by themself in a public place can be perfectly content. That person who always gets the most likes on Facebook can be especially insecure. The person who is showered with gifts can feel strangely empty. My point is, to really understand another person you have to go much deeper than the surface layer in social media. We often forget that Facebook or instagram is just a highlight reel. We put what we want others to see but in fact there are infinitely more moments and often not very pretty ones than the single snap shared.
I guess my point to this ramble is that there are very few people on this planet that truly understand and know us for who we really are.Things and people are very rarely as what they seem to be. Heck, many people don’t even know who they are until much later in life. Although, you could be reading this and thinking I’m completely wrong. I am just an 18-year-old girl who spends way too much time over analysing everything right? Right.